Growth: Discovering the Best Version of Yourself Over Time

My friends on social media know different versions of me. But each version is only a fraction of the whole picture. The real story, like life itself, is more nuanced and layered. 

I am a tiny part of what others think they know and so much more of what they don't. Social media is just a microcosm of the real world. We are all presenting the best (or worst) part of ourselves to those we meet casually and saving the worst (or best) part of ourselves for those we know best. 

My life has roots in a particular upbringing, specific beliefs, and a worldview that guided my early years. But if you knew me at 16, 26, 36, or even 56, you'd see that I'm not the same person at each stage. The core is there, but so much has shifted. 

Every decade, each experience, and each lesson has helped me refine, shed, or expand parts of myself. What's surprising to many is that I see these changes not as losses but as growth. And for those who feel differently? The "current vintage of me" is the finest yet, so I'll leave it at that.

But growth isn't just my story. We all adapt, rethink, and change. Here are some steps to help you intentionally walk that path toward growth. Consider it less of a formula and more of a nudge forward.

Steps Toward Embracing Growth and Evolving Your Best Self

1. Beginner's Mind and a Growth Mindset
As I shared in a previous post, a Beginner's Mind—an openness to seeing things anew without preconceptions—is vital to growth. A growth mindset embraces the idea that we can all learn, evolve, and overcome challenges. Approaching life with curiosity rather than certainty creates space for new ideas and lasting growth.

2. See Change as an Opportunity, Not a Loss
Growth can feel like shedding skin, and often, it's uncomfortable. The old ways of thinking, the comfort of familiar routines, outdated formulas, or ingrained cultures —they don't leave quickly. Yet, whenever we let go of something familiar, we make room for something fresh. Change doesn't have to be a loss. It's just a chance to bring a new dimension to who you are.

3. Reflect on Your "Versions" Over Time
Think of your life like a set of decade markers—different "versions" of you at each one. Take a look back to identify who you were at those moments. Each version is a stepping stone to where you are now and can show you how you've grown and which parts of you have held steady through it all.

4. Listen to New Perspectives
Our early experiences shape our beliefs, but they don't have to stay locked in place. Be open to learning from new voices, even those who challenge you. Openness doesn't mean you need to change your mind on everything—it's more about expanding your view. Growth often comes from listening to others and, in turn, broadening your understanding.

5. Identify What's Been There All Along
While we evolve, our values and strengths often remain constant. Identify what's stayed with you through the years. These traits can be your compass, guiding you forward.

6. Be Intentional About What You Share
Just like we filter our social media, we filter in real life, too. But sharing more honestly with yourself and others deepens relationships and makes your journey feel authentic. Being honest with others can foster connections that support you and allow you to share your growth experiences with others.

Growth - A Work of Art

Growth isn't about becoming someone else; it's about uncovering who you've been all along. Like a sculptor revealing a masterpiece by removing what doesn't belong, each experience shapes and refines a new version of you. Growth isn't a destination; it's a work of art constantly evolving. Embrace it, not just for who you are today, but for who you will become tomorrow. In the end, you might find that the "current vintage of you" is the finest yet.